Body positivity does not justify obesity

I was recently attacked and confronted about the supposed claims that I make, which has sparked this blog post.  The gist of the conversation was  ….

“How can you say you are body positive and love your curves if you are trying to lose weight?”

Being body positive is about confidence and even at my heaviest of 108kg I was sexy AF. I believe in dressing for my body shape and I’ve always been a confident person. Don’t get me wrong, of course I had my insecurities. I just found ways to work around them.

At my heaviest, I was also at my unhealthiest. My personal experience has taught me that even though I was confidant and felt amazing about my appearance, being obese had dangerous connotations when it came to my health and well-being. I was hypertensive, pre-diabetic and my cholesterol and insulin resistance counts had spiked. How did this happen overnight? Well it didn’t! Excessive weight gain happens over a period of time. I was too busy living in denial and hiding behind my confidence, that I let my weight skyrocket and my health deteriorate.  As stated by the Times LIVE “Body positive movement is NOT about glorifying obesity.”

Just over a year ago I ate fairly healthily, so I assumed I was doing the right things. I was however overeating, my calorie intake far exceeded my physical activity. I wasn’t getting enough rest and I definitely should have swapped my alcohol intake with my water intake. All in all I wasn’t living a balanced and healthy life.

My weight loss journey isn’t about being skinny, but instead about being healthy and strong. My weight loss journey has taught me to accept my flabby arms, stretch marks and cellulite ridden thighs.


Now my focus is on improving those areas by eating right and firming up. A year ago I wore a size 44 to 46 and now I wear a size 38. The goal I had set for myself a year ago was to drop to a size 36 but I think a size 34 (which still makes means I am a plus size) would be a reasonable goal when I take into account the visceral fat I still need to lose. Visceral fat is a “deep” fat that’s stored further underneath the skin than belly fat. It’s a form of gel-like fat that’s actually wrapped around major organs, including the liver, pancreas and kidneys.

Body positivity means different things to different people, irrespective of whether you are fat or thin.  “The Body Positive Movement is a movement that encourages people to adopt more forgiving and affirming attitudes towards their bodies, with the goal of improving overall health and well-being”.

Now let me take a moment to chat about fitness. Firstly, here is a little rant. The misconception that thin equals fit drives me completely insane.  To put it very bluntly, it FUCKS me off.  Your size doesn’t determine your damn fitness level. Let me also point out that my big ass just happens to be fitter than many people who aren’t overweight. Fitness does more for me than just help me drop dress sizes. Fitness keeps me sane, helps me process things, makes me feel good and strong and it even helps me sleep better. Fitness is contagious but I’m not like the super athletes out there who train religiously several times a day. I’m all about getting my body moving and having fun while I do it. Fitness is a lifestyle and a journey of self-love and self-acceptance.

Guys I absolutely love my curves, I love my saggy boobs and my big booty. Let’s be honest, I’ve got thighs for days and they are not going anywhere, anytime soon. I’m not looking to lose that look but merely looking to enhance it while maintaining a great level of health and fitness. I don’t care too much about the size I wear as much as I care about having to live with chronic diseases or being sick all the time. I absolutely refuse to compromise my health just to prove that I am body positive.  I have also never been in the business of proving myself to anyone, and I don’t intend succumbing to the pressures of social media anytime soon. I live my life with conviction and I AM UNAPOLOGETICALLY ME!!!


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12 thoughts on “Body positivity does not justify obesity

  1. Amen sister! I envy your confidence ♥️

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    1. Thanks hun. But lets keep it real … you definitely have confidence these days 😉😘


  2. Lungisile Mjuza April 3, 2018 — 7:13 am

    This post made me so happy 😊. Fit and fabulous. Keep it going you are doing and looking great .

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you Lungisile We should never compromise our health for anything


  3. mariebxmastree April 4, 2018 — 4:56 pm

    Such an inspiring post. You write with such honesty, I really admire that. Thank you for sharing this post! 💜

    Liked by 1 person

  4. Was talking about exactly the same thing with my sister this morning. An interesting read.


  5. Very nicely expressed! Let’s call it Health Positivity rather than Body Positivity. Our body is not the only part of our entire well-being. We need to be positive with our mind first and then only it will reflect our body. We need to maintain a BMI required for every age that we go through.

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    1. I couldnt agree more with you. Thanks for the feedback and you input


  6. Ella Eris Beauty May 13, 2018 — 5:28 am

    You know, I just wrote a post similar to this and I should have put something in there regarding what you are saying here, because I agree with you 100%. I guess I just didn’t know how to actually say it, but you are right!!! I do not condone eating a bunch of shit and not exercising and saying I’M HAPPY WITH MY BODY!!! I guess my way of thinking is, obviously, for myself, why my body is going through what it is for health reasons etc. I am going to try and not get down on myself and just constantly work at being a healthier person inside and out and embracing where my body is at in this stage, rather than where I want to be since I tend to set unrealistic goals. There are many things I could be doing better but I KNOW when I’ve gone too far with the ice cream or french fries, yanno what I mean?

    This is a great article and I couldn’t agree more with you! Thank you so much!!!

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    1. Thanks soooo much for your feedback. Are you on Instagram Send me your handle hun

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      1. Ella Eris Beauty May 15, 2018 — 12:16 pm

        Ella.erisbeauty 😘😘😘😘

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      2. Ella Eris Beauty May 15, 2018 — 1:15 pm

        I believe you added me? I seen the notification but it doesn’t show me your handle…what is it? I want to follow you back!


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